Initially this blogger thought of naming the blog ‘the recovering idealist’. It was because as she matured, this blogger realised she was falling into the familiar idealism trap. This trap is all about living life pounding tables about idealism, talking about esoteric things and living in a delusion despite reality engulfing you.
But the trap is not just that, the trap plays out in the following ways. One of these is the Devdas mentality. Here the person has locked into some ideal of life which they might not have been able to experience or had for a short while. The trouble is they won’t let go. They fail to see what today’s reality is and keep lamenting the fact that it is not what it should be or used to be. The result is a depressed life troubling themselves and others around them.
The next is the self righteous prick. This guy ‘knows’ what is right and he also ‘knows’ what is wrong. But does he set about righting the wrongs. Heck no. He is the typical rabble rouser. He is never happy with anything and is always whining about the ‘unfair’ world. He has a fine mind, an intelligent one, which is why he understands the undercurrents of things, but then shouldnt he be part of the change? If you ask him that he would very indignantly tell you that he is a mere observer. If you look at his life also you would find the dichotomy between words and actions. But this person is very self righteous about pointing out flaws of others, of saying how the world should be. An extreme case of this leads us to the third type.
The third type takes up self righteousness to a different level. He feels that his special abilities mean that the world owes him. He also thinks that the difficulty he goes through by engaging with lesser mortals daily makes him eligible for finer things in life. If only, the world was better, if only someone else would change. And so the story goes. This person has a chip on their shoulder and treats the ‘other’ less intelligent, or more practical beings with disdain. This person fills up blogs, letters, conversations pointing out how everything is wrong with everyone else. And God forbid anyone point it out to them that everyone else seems to be progressing while they are still where they are – complaining.
This blogger has nothing against idealism per se and believes a healthy dose of idealism is needed. The problem is when the idealism makes one divorced from reality and makes one part of the problem rather than the solution. Idealism should actually inspire one to be able to first improve their own outlook in life and spread the goodness around. It is not about just pointing out flaws in everything and grumbling about things. Without action, idealism is just vanity and deluding oneself of one’s own importance and greatness. And no amount of idealism gives one the right to look down upon someone else’s way of life. It works for them, it may not for you, but that doesn’t make them wrong.